Saturday, June 06, 2009

Are you excited to be where you are?

People all move at different speeds. In fact, it's rare that you walk down the sidewalk, or drive or that matter, at the same pace as those that are around you. I once watched a golf video that said I must learn how to swing in tune with my body's rhythm. I suppose that makes sense. I should probably do everything in my body's rhythm.

But, how do you figure out your body's rhythm?

When you're not stopping to smell the roses or rushing to get somewhere, what pace do you walk at? I believe that your normal pace is your body's rhythm. Furthermore, I've an unproven theory that we like music that is in tempo with our body's rhythm.

This morning, @janezander was walking to the car and I was trailing behind. We walked at a much different pace... of course, my food tank was on empty and I was out of energy and she was off to the airport. In other words, she was trying to get somewhere and I was trying to stay somewhere. When we got into the car, her music choices were loud and uptempo; I wished for earplugs.

So, I asked her why she was in such a hurry all of the time and she said, "I'm not in a hurry, I'm just excited to get where I'm going." What I wanted to say in reply was, "Why aren't you excited to be where you are?" Unfortunately, I was braindead, but her reply would have likely been, "Ohhh, Roberto."

I've been writing a lot about being in the NOW. It's been a long time since I thought about body rhythm, but this morning I began to wonder if people need to have the same tempo in order to be good in a relationship. Mind you (especially you, JZ), I was merely thinking about this objectively... does your body rhythm change with age and/or experience? Is your body rhythm different on different days? I can say with complete honesty, that I don't think my body rhythm has ever been any different in my life, faster or slower, than it is now.

My dream is to be with someone that will walk next to me (as often as we can), not behind me or in front of me. Therefore, I think that we'd have to walk at the same pace. Fortunately, most of the time, JZ and I seem to do that, but there are definitely days when she's a few steps ahead.

Go forth, be in the now and do it at your own pace.

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Robert Zamees said...

From @oh_danny_boy: "I've been thinking about this a lot lately and even moreso since you mentioned it the other day. I've decided to slow my own pace and do a better job of balancing my life. Kids. Work. Then everything else (including my online obsessions). I'm definitely going to spend more time in the moment. Thanks @zamees!"

@coderkevin said...

If left to our natural paces, I always walk faster than my wife. Partly because of my longer legs, I'm sure, but also I think it is because I am the leader of our household and naturally walk at a quicker pace.

I believe it is not unlike many other aspects of a relationship for one or the other to adjust their speed. It's just another form of compromise and understanding that is so necessary for a successful relationship. Although my wife and I have many similarities, it is our differences which bond us together, and make us an effective unit.

Robert Zamees said...

If you think about the sidewalk analogy again, there are so few people that walk at the same pace as you, that one would have to find some compromise in a partner.

Good point with the longer legs.

I often say, "It is our differences that make us unique."

Thanks @coderkevin!