Wednesday, September 10, 2008

What DO I want?

With all this talk about "TailDating" and interviews with reporters and such, people keep asking me, "Bobby, what is it that you are looking for?"

I want someone to share my life with that understands that the goal is to walk side-by-side, hand-in-hand as often as possible. But we both realize that there are times when one needs to lead or the other needs to be led. We take care of business, take care of each other and get back to tackling challenges together.

More specifically:
  • Female
  • Single
  • Age 28-38
  • An intelligent, old soul, introspective woman that puts thought into conversation.
  • A wise, mature, street-smart woman that has many experiences to draw from in her young life to assist in decision-making.
  • A motivated, goal-oriented, strong woman who will walk side by side with me to conquer life’s challenges. But, one that can take the lead or let me lead when the time calls for it.
  • A woman who will appreciate my chivalrous demeanor.
  • A fun-loving woman with a wild streak, but one that knows when etiquette is needed.
  • An active, athletic woman who can go with the flow or set the pace.
  • A naturally cute, casual woman who can just throw on a hat and head out the door.
  • A woman that understands love for a family and wants to start one of her own.
  • A woman who enjoys art, culture, and giving back to the community.
  • A woman who enjoys creativity in task, problem-solving, and spontaneity.
  • A woman who keeps her nose in a book more often than a mirror.
By no means do I believe that there is someone out there that meets every one of these wishes. I believe that there are always trade-offs that have to be made between people that want to be together. In the above list, there are bullets that are more important to me than others... if I really wanted to provide a list, then I'd weight the items in it. Perhaps another night when I'm not propping up my eyelids with toothpicks.

I also believe that our imperfections, if you will, are what make us unique. I don't believe in perfection and who would want it anyhow? In this country's culture we are constantly trying to improve ourselves. Learn by doing. Learn by making mistakes. This is how we are... adolescent and constantly learning. You can't improve perfect, so it doesn't define us as Americans.

What do YOU need?

3 comments:

Kelli said...

I just have to say I wish you the best and hope you find exactly what/who you're looking for. As a single woman in the same age range (yet a couple hours away) I admire your attempts and the work/time you are putting into this...very impressive. You've thrown yourself out there and taken control, a woman can only apppreciate and respect that...I certainly do. You appear to be an incredible "catch" and I think an outing with you would be memorable.

I look forward to reading about your TailDate and wish you much love and happiness...and a few fun stories along the way!

Kelli said...

PS - I see you're a Mizzou fan...could you handle a rival "TailDate" with a KU girl to the MU-KU game in KC???? :)

bigBADbobby said...

Thank you! I know that I don't have all the answers. I know that there is a good match for me out there... just gotta keep on looking!

BTW, I'll already be at the MU/KU game (kinda grew up in a border family). :) Seems like all the girls that I've been out with are Jayhawks already!