Monday, July 06, 2009

What Gifts Do You Have To Give?

For the last few days, I've asked this simple question on Twitter (follow me @zamees by clicking here):

What can you give someone that will positively impact their life, other than money?

Now, before I give you some of the answers, let me write a little bit about the root of the question. Donating money is always the easy way out and, in this age, we want more accountability from our charities and other non-profits. We want to know that the majority of our donation went to the benefit of those that the non-profit represents. We want to know that we sent enough malaria nets to save 10 children or gave enough to feed a football stadium of people. These visuals are tangible, more so than the thought of $1000, because what's $1000 here vs. there vs. somewhere else anyhow? It doesn't really tell me what impact I had on someone or something.

So, instead of giving money, what can we give that really has a life-changing impact on someone? Most of us don't have enough money to make a massive impact on someone's life anyhow. So, what can we give?

From my many followers on Twitter, I got these excellent answers (in no particular order):
  • Understanding
  • Time
  • Smiles
  • Knowledge/Training
  • Friendship
  • Love
  • Trust
Amazing answers... they beg the next question, how do we give these to others?

What if we walked up to the house of an elderly person and said, "For the next hour, I'm at your service, what can I do for you?" What if we stood on the street corner of a busy tourist area with a sign held up that said, "Free Directions" or even one that said, "HONK and I'll SMILE!"?

Now, take it one more step, and what if millions of us did it all on the same day at the same time? It'd be damn easy to arrange!

Who wants in? Let's figure something out that's fun and impactful!

#iamthe, Translated "I am the..."

I started a fun creativity exercise today on Twitter (follow me @zamees). It's quite simple, really, all you have to do is finish the sentence, "I am the..."

Here are some of the creative things that have already been submitted:
  • #iamthe girl your mother warned you about.
  • #iamthe guilty pleasure that you can't do without.
  • #iamthe marble that used to be in your pocket.
  • #iamthe mystery of me.
  • #iamthe terror that flaps in the night.
  • #iamthe itch you just have to scratch.
GOOD STUFF!

Why am I doing this? I want to see where people fall on the attitude spectrum. Do they see themselves as something negative or something positive? With each new #iamthe that is submitted, I record it and then assign it a positive, negative or neutral value. Let's see what the score is when we get to 100 #iamthe's!

You can follow the Twitter responses by tracking the hashtag #iamthe, click here to see the search string and examples from other users.

You can also submit your #iamthe in the comments below or to @zamees on Twitter..

Thursday, July 02, 2009

What I want the world to be like (Part 2)

There was a section in the book, "What Kind of World Do You Want?" (see my review) that spoke about a grieving wife. Two different people attempted to console her, one by quoting scripture and the other simply sat silently by her side. The widow knew that the first was going through the motions, but the second was a surviving widow herself. It was the act of knowing and the presence of a survivor that made the difference. She asked the first to leave and allowed the second to stay by her side.

It was a compelling section to me because I recently experienced a friend who abruptly left her life to be at the side of an ex-boyfriend whose father had passed away unexpectedly. Even though they'd been apart for a year and weren't that great together, she dropped everything in her life to be by his side because she knew that her presence would make things better for him.

Her actions made me think... my initial thought found it strange for her to do such a thing. My second thought was that she'd have to be careful about the likelihood that he will try to re-attach himself to her. But in my third thought, which was triggered by the book I mentioned above, was the one that made the difference.

I asked myself, "What kind of world do I want?"

I want the kind of world where people are willing to leave their lives behind for the betterment of others.

Yes, yes I do.

26/52: "What Kind of World Do You Want?" by Jim Lord

Book 26/52: "What Kind of World Do You Want?" by Jim Lord, 5/5 Stars
I will have to read this book many times in my life... and the version that I read was only the pre-publication one. If it gets better from here, then it will be on my list of books to read once per year.

There are so many quotes that I can take from this book, but the general take from it involves focusing on what you do right instead of what you do wrong. Take what you do right and do it more often.

"The key is how we look at the world, rather than the way the world is."

"It takes courage to break from our routines and bring our ideals, hopes, and dreams out into the open; to make them legitimate topics of conversation; to shift our sense of what is and what is possible by changing the way we talk about it."

I've struggled with this last quote because my dream is to become a writer. When people ask me what I do, I still too often tell them that I'm a "marketing guy." Is it possible that I will never be a writer until I believe that I am one? Yes, of course it is, and maybe that is the reason why it is taking me so long to finish my first book; the task of being something else keeps getting in the way.

"Small things influence the world more than we know."

Jim Lord talks about how it's good to make grand plans and dreamy aspirations, but let's not forget the little things, the person-to-person things that make up each and every day. I've really been focusing on this activity through asking those that look lost if I can help them find their way, even when I don't even live in that city. I've started leaving books in public places with notes that state they are free, please enjoy. I've asked those that follow me on Twitter (@zamees) to tell me about their #gooddeed.

"The ability to use our lives to say something important, however small or large--our actions, our contributions, or just showing up in our own way--can send a message that means something to others, and even to ourselves."

What kind of world to you want? And, what kind of world do you want to leave behind?

GOAL: 52 books in 52 weeks!

Book #25 = "The New Rules of Marketing & PR" by David Meerman Scott, 4/5 Stars
Book #24 = "Outliers" by Malcolm Gladwell, 3/5 Stars
Book #23 = "Lisey's Story" by Stephen King, 1/5 Stars
Book #22 = "My Favorite Place on Earth" by Jerry Camarillo Dunn, 4/5 Stars
Book #21 = "Wisdom 2.0" by Soren Gordhamer, 4/5 Stars
Book #20 = "Oath Of Gold" by Elizabeth Moon, 5/5 Stars
Book #19 = "The Age Of Engage" by Denise Shiffman, 3/5 Stars
Book #18 = "What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20" by Tina Seelig, 4/5 Stars
Book #17 = "Animal Farm" by George Orwell, 4/5 Stars
Book #16 = "Divided Allegiance" by Elizabeth Moon, 3/5 Stars
Book #15 = "The Curious Incident of the Dog..." by Mark Haddon, 2/5 Stars
Book #14 = "The Sheepfarmer's Daughter" by Elizabeth Moon, 3.5/5 Stars
Book #13 = "Love Is The Killer App" by Tim Sanders, 4/5 Stars
Book #12 = "Fight Club" by Chuck Palahniuk, 4.5/5 Stars
Book #11 = "The Time Traveler's Wife" by Audrey Niffenegger, 5/5 Stars
Book #10 = "The Finder" by Colin Harrison, 3.5/5 Stars
Book #9 = "Veronika Decides To Die" by Paulo Coelho, 1/5 Stars
Book #8 = "By The River Piedra I Sat Down & Wept" by Paulo Coelho, 3/5 Stars
Book #7 = "Stiff" by Mary Roach, 2/5 Stars
Book #6 = "Love in the Time of Cholera" by Gabriel Garcia-Marquez, 1/5 Stars
Book #5 = "The Road" by Cormac McCarthy, 3/5 Stars
Book #4 = "Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coelho, 2/5 Stars
Book #3 = "The Good Guy" by Dean Koontz, 3/5 Stars
Book #2 = "My Ishmael" by Dan Quinn, 2/5 Stars
Book #1 = "The Zahir" by Paulo Coelho, 3.5/5 Stars


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